Look what you have gone and made me do. Here I am. Finally sitting down to write about this because apparently the entirety of the world forgot how words work. I am emotionally charged writing this so expect extra sassiness and passive aggressive tones. I honestly don’t even know where to start this.
I want you to repeat after me.
I am a feminist.
I’m waiting. If you feel so ashamed to say it out loud, I give you permission to run off into the closet to whisper that little sentence to yourself. Go on. I’ll still be here.
I want you to think about what you just said. Actually, don’t. You might pop a blood vessel in your brain because apparently this is too hard for the majority of people to do. Instead, let me discuss a few things about this statement.
I am a feminist.
Do you know what this means? Do you know what feminism is? You don’t? Oh you do. Do you though? Because I asked my father if he knew what the word feminism means and he was not even close. Listen, I won’t be mad if you don’t know what it means. If I’m going to be honest, I dont blame you. The brainwashing on the part of women everywhere has kind of skewed our understanding of feminism. Yes women. I am blaming YOU. Now hold on a minute men, you’re not off the hook. You are both to blame.
Alright google, what does feminism mean?
The advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of equality of the sexes.
Wow. Interesting. Feminism means equality of the sexes. So now that you know what feminism means, are you a feminist? I think it is safe to assume that every person on the planet is (or should be) a feminist. Oh wait, I forgot, the word feminist hurts the egos of men everywhere so let me reword that. I think it is safe to assume that every person on the planet shares the notion of equal rights. So why is this still an issue?
Because feminists don’t want equality, they want to be superior to men.
(I’m facepalming right now, just give me a minute). Ok, dad. Did you just totally ignore the fact that I gave you the definition of feminism and that was not it? Where in the definition of feminism did it say women want to be superior? You can’t just change the definition that’s not how words work.
That is why everyone is so afraid of admitting they’re feminists. Of course they believe in equality, it is not the ideology of feminism that scares people, it is the word. The word has been given a negative charge from the get go. The word feminism has been given a negative connotation so that every time we hear it, we are primed to scoff. We are primed to think, oh god some woman is going to start yelling at us. We are primed to think that women are asking for the unreasonable. Men are primed to think that they’re weak or vulnerable. Why? Because they’re feminists?
I’ll tell you why. Actually, let me just show you. This is what I found on urban dictionary when searching for the definition of feminism.
“Feminism used to be about women getting the same rights as men.” It never stopped being about this. It never stopped being about equality of the sexes. You can’t change a words definition just because you want to. When a definition changes, so does the word that defines it. That is literally how it works. Before you get your panties in a bunch, yes, I am fully aware that urban dictionary is the biggest joke and is mostly used for new teenage slang. But this is what young people are learning, this is what people are being taught, this is what people are observing from the outside world. Any real feminist will tell you that they just want equality. The reason you see us fighting about it still and the reason there is a greater emergence of these social movement groups is because we are yet to receive this equality that we deserve as people. Imagine that. People everywhere are getting angry at real feminists for wanting what white men already have. You think we’re going to steal it from you? You’re running out of excuses.
So why am I blaming both genders?
Let’s get one thing clear. I am not blaming all women. I am not saying that all men are “not off the hook.” Because let’s face it, not all of us are innocent when it comes to cracking down on why “feminism” is turning into a taboo. So women, relax. I am not blaming all of you. I am however, blaming you extremists (or as I like to call them, Feminazi’s). You extremists are seriously making us normal folk look really really bad. I don’t want men everywhere to bow down to my every whim or kiss the dirt that touches my heel. I am also not going to yell at you men for holding the door open for me and scoff “um excuse you, I can do it myself” because that just shows you’re polite and well mannered, not that you think my fragile arms will snap if I attempt to open that door. Whoever it was that decided equality was only one step in our supposed “patriarchical demolition” scheme seriously needs to take a hike. And for you dude’s out there, you’re smarter than falling for everything a feminazi says, you’re smarter than grouping us normal feminists with a radical group that wants to watch you burn, so for the love of god, just admit you’re a feminist.